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Obituary for Barbara J. Ackley


Barbara J. (Day) Ackley

Barbara J. Ackley, 90, passed away peacefully Saturday, June 13, 2020, at the Carlyle House in Framingham, with members of her loving family by her side. She was preceded in death by her husband of 59 years, Glenn E. Ackley, who passed away in 2009.

Barbara was born and raised in Northborough, a daughter to the late Leslie C. and Bertha F. (Beatty) Day. She graduated Northborough High School, Class of 1947, prior to attending UMass, and was a former member of Trinity Church. Barbara remained a resident of Northborough for most all of her life. Barbara worked as a bookkeeper for many years at the former Chase Paper Company in Westborough prior to her retirement. She was an avid bowler at Sawyer’s Bowladrome in Northborough where she enjoyed the competition and made many lasting friendships. She also competed in the Worcester County Woman’s Bowling League for several years.

With a true heartfelt love for family and friends alike, Barbara would put the care and comfort of others before her own needs. She found enjoyment in hosting and cooking wonderful meals for the many family and holiday gatherings throughout the years; her family will especially cherish the many Sunday dinners together. Barbara also enjoyed traveling with her husband Glenn around the country especially to, Cape Cod, Florida and their nine trips to Hawaii.

Barbara is survived by her 6 loving children, Thomas Ackley of Northborough, Brian Ackley and his wife Beth of Cumberland, RI, Keith Ackley and his wife Mary of Southborough, Janet Ackley of Westborough, Robert Ackley and his wife Mandy of Southborough, Lauren Fawell and her husband Stephen of Framingham. Barbara also leaves behind 13 grandchildren whom she adored, Matthew and wife Jenna, William, Sarah, Elizabeth and husband Peter Skogg, James and wife Rafa , Glenn and wife Samantha, Jeffrey, Victoria, Christopher and wife Kasia, Robert, Rachael and her husband Cory Himberg, Stephanie and Amanda and six great-grandchildren Cora, Lucy, Macy, Iris, Delilah and Blake. Barbara also leaves one sister, Doris Heath of Southborough and many loving nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by her siblings, Everett Day, Earl Day, Winifred Ewing, Robert Day, Marion Ford, Sylvia Warren and her step-sister, Shirley Beatty.

Services and burial at this time will be private, for the family. A time to gather in remembrance and to celebrate Barbara’s life will be planned for a future date, once social gathering restrictions have been relaxed.

The Ackley family would like to thank the Carlyle House staff for their kindness and support given to Barbara during her stay there. In lieu of flowers, please consider a memorial donation to the Carlyle House – Resident Activity Fund, 342 Winter St, Framingham, MA 01702. To leave a condolence, please visit

Several of her grandchildren have submitted loving memories of what they remember or admire most about her.

Matt -When I think of Grammy I think of cranking the old Brigham Street doorbell and being greeted by nothing but open arms and love.
Will - When I think of Grammy, Sunday dinners immediately come to mind! Especially waiting for that Andes mint while rearranging the magnets of all of the cousins latest school pictures on the fridge.
Sarah -Grammy reminds me how to be perfectly content with the small sweet pleasures of life. When I think of Gram I think of Sunday dinners: boiled onions, mashed potatoes, raspberry squares, and of course an Andes mint before you leave the door
Liz- I will always remember her cheerful chuckle, Sunday dinners cooked with love, and how she’d firmly plant a kiss on your cheek with an exaggerated “MWAAAH!”
James-Grammy filled over three generations of our family with joy. She was our matriarch, and we will never forget the love and happiness she gave to us every day. Love,James

Chris- Walking into the house on Brigham Street for Sunday dinners and how good everything smelled as Gram put the meal together. Big hugs and an Andes mint for everyone on the way out the door and then she and Grampy would wave to us as we backed out of the driveway. Then Gram would run inside to the front of the house and flick the outside light on and off for us, knowing how big of a kick all her grand kids got out of it as we headed home.

Rachael- Her unmistakable laugh. Her dance at the stove while making Sunday dinner. Her appreciation for dessert. Her impeccable use of salt and butter to drown the taste of any vegetable.

Stephanie- Grammy effortlessly brought our family together and created a community where unconditional love, respect, kindness, and inclusivity were simply expected across all generations. She set this example so well that, growing up, I never thought a family could be anything different. Grammy taught me that caring for others is about simultaneously celebrating each other and making each other that much better. She was balanced, and warm, and our fearless leader. I am eternally grateful for all she taught us about love and for the family that surrounds us because of her.

Amanda- Barbara Ackley, my Grammy, was the strong, sunny, generous matriarch of our wonderful family. I treasured my many years with her, and I am so thankful for the lessons she taught me. Here are a few of my favorites: family traditions are grounding and important, even life’s bitterest flavors can be fixed with butter and salt, kindness and tolerance never go out of style, and no matter the circumstances, we ought to be thankful for the sun, and the rain, and the Appleseed. You were so good to me, Gram. I love and miss you.

Glenn- It is undoubtedly painful knowing that she is gone, knowing that she won't be around to watch her legacy grow and prosper with her love. However, it is comforting to know that she and Grampy are together again and that their legacy does live on in all of us. With every Thanksgiving prayer, every Christmas day, and every raspberry picked we remember her as one of the best people we knew and that hurt that we feel subsides just a little bit more. All of our love.